Children’s Sexual Behaviour

Children have great learning abilities (Clayton, 2010). They learn lots of things from the environment. The nature of the environment that children grow up in is important in shaping their behaviour. If the behaviours of childhood are not well regulated by the parents/guardian and early child hood teachers, they might persist into adulthood (Radunsky, 2004). Every child on the universe has a right to decisions made for their best interest (Morawska, Walsh, Grabski and Fletcher, 2015). It is important for a parent/guardian to ensure that they educate their children about sexuality and address all questions that they may have. This will help the child grow well as sexuality is a normal part of life and development of a child.

The case of Annie illustrates the fact that it is important to inform children about their sexuality. The teacher approaches the issue by explaining to Annie the differences that exist between boys and girls. This knowledge is important for the class because the children have a right to be taught about the same. Children feel good when their issues are addressed. This is evidenced by Annie who becomes happy after the teacher addresses her question.

Children go through various developmental stages (Breuner, Mattson and Committee on Psychosocial Aspects of Child and Family Health, 2016). Extensive evidence has shown that phenomenal growth and development occurs in the first five years of life. The emotional and social development of children is determined by several factors. Some of these factors are gene and biology. The factors that surround a child play a great role in influencing the understanding of their environments. It also greatly affects their social and sexual development. At this period, the children are usually unaware of what is right and what is wrong. It is the process of socialization that shapes their views on various issues. Due to this, parents and early childhood education teachers have a key role in shaping the proper growth, development and wellbeing of children. It is worth noting that children learn about their gender differences from as early as three to five years. Some parents are usually surprised when their children exhibit some behaviour related to sexuality that they did not expect for the age of the child. It is worth noting that children could have boyfriends or girlfriends even at preschool age. There is a unique thing with them however. This is that they do not attach the same feelings and seriousness to boy girl relationships as the adults do.

Appropriate Strategies to Respond to Children’s Questions and/or Behaviours

For a parent or a caregiver to intervene appropriately to the sexual development of their children, it is necessary that they take part in the process (Hyam, 2017). They should educate the children appropriately regarding the differences that exist between girls and boys and why it is important to ensure that they are careful and behave well. Extensive evidence has revealed that the sexual development of the child is likely to be normal and without challenges if the parent/guardian is involved in shaping the views that their children have concerning sexuality (Simon, 2017). Another group that is crucial in shaping the sexual development of the child is the teachers (Kitzinger, 2015). Children spend most of their time either at home or at school (Brennan and Graham, 2012). The good thing is that the early childhood educators are trained on child psychology and they know how to appropriately respond to the various needs of a child.

The case of Annie sheds light to the issue of child sexuality. It is evident that she has learnt some information concerning the differences that exist between boys and girls. In other words, she is already aware that she is a girl and she is different from boys. It is worth noting that sexual development is a normal part of growth and development of a child. The teacher reacts to her words in a professional and understanding way. Unlike most parents and guardians, the teacher appreciates that Annie have learnt something significant to her life and it is important to give her the information that is necessary for her proper growth and development. She also acts in a professional way by informing the mum. The mum is one of the parties that are influential in the growth and development of Annie. It is sad to note that most guardians/ parents do not inform their children about sexual development. They leave the children to learn this from an external environment.  

The questions or behaviours that children have are usually based what they learn from their environment. It is unlikely that a child will learn that they are different from the other sex without having a source of information about the same. Due to this, it is necessary that parents/ guardians learn about proper ways of parenting and taking care of their children. With the proper learning, parents would be better equipped to handle the sexual development of their children. whenever a child raises any issue concerning sexuality, whether through questions or through their behaviour, it is not wise to ignore or to be harsh. The best move is to give loving care and attention to the child and give them the right information regarding sexual development (Rowley and Edwards, 2007). It is very unwise to wait until the child learns about sexuality from other persons apart from the parent or the guardian for they might be guided wrongly. There are many cases where children have been misguided by people with ill motives (Moore and Reynolds, 2018). Most of the times, these people are usually close to the child and it is not easy to suspect them. In some cases, the child might be sexually abused. Such abuse usually goes unnoticed for the children are advised or intimidated not to notify any person. It is therefore important that parents and early childhood educators guide children appropriately.

Legal and Ethical Responsibilities

The case of Annie demonstrates that children learn about their sexuality. The response of the teacher is great and educative. The teacher ensures that Annie is informed on the differences that exist between boys and girls. The teacher also makes a wise move by informing the mother about the situation that Annie is in. The teacher could work together with the mother to ensure that Annie is appropriately informed and monitored.

A child is usually under the care of parents/guardians or their teacher. These are the people that children spend most of their time with. The primary role of taking care of the child is vested on the parents/guardians by law. They are supposed to observe all the rights that children are entitles to. Parents /guardians are expected to make decisions that are in the best interest of the child. Part of the caring process is to ensure that children are equipped with appropriate information to optimal growth and development (Kilodavis and DeSimone, 2010). Offering children such information and monitoring them is for their best interest. Early childhood educators are also tasked with ensuring that they offer the highest level of education and care possible to the children. They should work hand in hand with the parents. The case of Annie illustrates this situation and its importance in great way.

Conclusion

Children learn greatly from their environment. Extensive evidence show that phenomenal growth occurs during the first five years of life. During early childhood, a child spends most of their time either at school or at home. It is therefore necessary that the right care and education be carried out at the two places. The parents have a primary role of ensuring that a child grows in an environment that favours their wellbeing (Ringrose, 2016). It is important that the parent educate their children regarding sexuality and the differences that are based on gender. If the parent does not inform the child in a loving and a caring way, they might get the information from other people who are not well meaning. These people may misdirect the child and even take advantage of their innocence. It is therefore that the parent/ guardian be sure to guide their children well. The early childhood educators also have a huge role to play when it comes to the issue of sexuality.

The case of Annie illustrates very well that children learn about sexuality in from the environment. While the approach of many parents or guardians is to be silent on matters relating to sexuality, the teacher employs a different approach. The approach is ensuring that the child becomes aware of their sexuality. In addition to this, the teacher also notifies the mother about the situation probably with the aim of ensuring that the child is appropriately informed and taken care of.

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